Today, I received a compliment about something I have been consciously working on to improve: My English.
I decided to treat myself to the renowned fries at a spot called Fabel Friet, just within the charming streets of Damstraatjes, Amsterdam.
Judging by the long queue, I knew I was in for a treat. And boy, they were delicious!
Just by typing this has awakened my cravings.
But what truly made my day was the unexpected
Conversation with the Dutch Cashier.
“You are from the Philippines? You don’t sound like one. You speak very good english—I thought you came from America”
Little did he know, he wasn’t entirely wrong. I had just flown in from the U.S. and yes, I am putting a conscious effort to sound more American. His compliment felt like validation.
Thinking about this, I find it fascinating to realise that my thoughts now naturally flow in English.
Here’s a little secret between you and me that I am reluctant to share to others:
During Filipino meetings, where we speak our native language, I sometimes find myself mentally disengaging—not because I have any disdain for the language, but because I am deeply committed to refining my ability to think and communicate entirely in English.
Admittedly, I occasionally do the same in English conversations
when the accent is heavily distinct
—whether it’s Filipino or any other non-standard English accent.
It’s my way of distancing myself from the accent which I’ve been consciously working on to neutralise. While I recognise that accents are not inherently negative and often add character and identity, I feel that this step is necessary for my personal and professional growth.
Still, there are exceptions—conversations with family and close friends. Those moments allow me to relax and revert to the comfort of my native tongue. However, these exchanges have become infrequent, which I regret but also accept as part of the changing dynamics in my life.
Reflecting on this, I am both amused and intrigued by how much I’ve changed.
What once felt like a struggle to me turned into a compliment, which is surreal.
I can’t help but feel grateful for the progress I have made.
